Posted on October 30, 2017 at 10:30 AM
You’ve probably seen the blogs and lists from “experts” telling you what you should do in your first 90 days of sobriety (or first 90 days out of treatment). Usually the advice goes something like this “take it easy and avoid your triggers.” Well, they might be the experts but we have something we think is even better—our experience. These are the tips, straight from our staff, that helped us get a good foundation in those first 90 days out of treatment.
- “Your first order of business should be to get a sponsor and a home group—STAT! I think everyone should have a sponsor within 7 days of getting home.”
- “Work all 12 steps before you’ve been out 90 days. Getting through the work is important and gives you a firm foundation. Even if you did the steps while you were in treatment, find a sponsor that will take you through them again.”
- “Get a service commitment and an H&I commitment. Service commitments are usually at your home group—like making coffee or chairing a meeting. H&I commitments stand for “Hospitals and Institutions,” and mean that you are taking a meeting into a hospital, treatment center, or other facility to carry the message to people that are still suffering. You might feel you don’t have enough experience but trust me, you have more sobriety than they do and sometimes the person with 2 months is easier to relate to than the person with 2 years. You could save someone’s life and it gives you a sense of purpose in sobriety.”
- “Don’t just go to a bunch of discussion meetings—find a group that really studies the big book and has good speakers that talk about the steps.”
- “When you are done with the steps, sponsor people! It is THE BEST assurance you have against relapse.”
- “Focus on making friendships of the same gender before getting into a relationship. The old advice is to avoid relationships altogether for a time, and that’s probably good if you can do it—but attraction does happen so just make sure that you have a good group of same gender friends that can keep you on track and help you not get too distracted with finding or being in a relationship.”
- “Seriously consider living in a sober living home for at least 90 days if you can. Being surrounded by that support and accountability makes all the difference when you get out of treatment. It also helps you connect with other sober people and not feel so lonely.”
- “Hang out with people that are really doing the deal. Find the peers that are going to H&I commitments and sponsoring others. Those are the winners.”
- “Don't stop taking your meds! If you are on medication now is not the time to try and start coming off without a doctor’s help.”
- “Focus on your recovery being a priority for those first 90 days. It’s easy to get distracted by dating, wanting a better job, making more money, or getting your kids back, but I promise all of that will come if you make your recovery the most important thing—especially in those first 90 days.”
- “Have fun! While you should ensure that you are thoroughly involved in the 12 steps and your home group, don’t forget to make friends and have fun. Getting involved in local young people’s meetings and conferences is a great way to get connected. No matter how much sobriety you have there are always roles you can get helping out in your local YPAA (Young people in Alcoholics Anonymous) chapters.”
What are your tips for people in their first 90 days??